The internet is a wonderful resource which enables us all to connect, communicate, learn and be creative in a variety of ways. However, the internet is also fast moving and ever changing and can be an area of particular difficulty for parents and carers seeking to support their children to engage in the online world in a safe and positive environment. One of the key risks when using the internet is that young people may be exposed to inappropriate material. This may be material that is pornographic, hateful or violent in nature; that encourages activities that are dangerous or illegal; or that is age-inappropriate or biased. The concern is that the digital world is complicated. It is risky, challenging and has little respect for age.
The links, videos and information below relate to items covered in the ICTinspires presentation.
|This guide is for those parents who have attended an ICTinspires parent session.||HIGHLY RECOMMENDED BOOK:
“If you have children, stop what you are doing and pick up a copy” The Times
“Fascinating useful and well researched, it will change the way you think about technology – Our Verdict 9/10” The Sunday Post
|Family Agreement – Childnet’s Family agreement is a great way to start a conversation with your whole family about how you all use the internet.||INTERNET MATTERS: Parental controls – Set broadband controls or control individual devices.|
|Kaspersky – Gives you new and better ways to keep your kids safe on PC, MAC & Mobile||OurPact – A simple family locator and parental control app.|
|5 things parents should know about screen time.||The Health impact of screen time – a guide for parents|
|Gaming support and information|
|Common Sense Media – Find age appropriate media and check out the parent review.||Ask about Games – advice and information to parents.|
|Growing up Digital – Instagram Terms & Conditions in child friendly spiel: Page 10||Alicia’s Story – Radio 4 interviews with a woman who had been groomed as a child.|
|Videos used in the presentation|
|What is Cyberbullying?|
|How are smartphones affecting teenagers|
|How social media is affecting teens|
|Risks children face online: Grooming (Primary)|
|Risks children face online: Grooming (Secondary)|
|Social Networking in Real Life – SOCIAL EXPERIMENT|
|NSPCC ‘I saw your willy’|
|BBC Facebook warning from founder|
|Our phones are ruining relationships|
|How to Deal with Bullying – Becoming a Better Bystander|
Things to consider:
Parent’s own use of social media
- Be careful which sites the rest of the family visit
- Tell your child not to fill out online forms
- Talk to your children about validity of sites when researching – anyone can create a website
Live streaming and Sexting
What is Live Streaming?
Responding to the risks of Live Streaming
Younger children sharing pictures or videos online – what to do
Sexting – ‘Exposed’ video for parent and child for 14+
‘Selfies’ What parents need to know
- Talk to your child about what they are doing online. Having these discussions little and often is more effective than ‘one big chat’.
- Use webcam and devices in family areas and not bedrooms. Young children do not have reasoning skills to keep themselves safe independently, if they are faced with experienced offenders who know how to manipulate and overpower children.
- Private platforms to chat – Make sure your child knows to keep their conversations in open and public areas.
- Build resilience – Loneliness can be an issue for children and offenders can exploit this, especially with primary aged children. Have conversations and give activities that help build your child’s self-esteem e.g. offline activities like drawing.
- Make sure your child knows where to go for support – Children can sometimes feel they are to blame if something goes wrong online. Remind your child that they can always speak to an you or adult they trust if they are worried no matter what may have happened.
Social networking/chat rooms/Gaming
- Talk to your child(ren) about digital privacy
- Talk to your child(ren) about ‘friends’ – someone they ‘meet online’ is NOT a friend
- Decide what PEGI rating games you will allow them to play and be aware that extreme gaming may be a safeguarding issue (e.g. 16+, 18+ games)
- Common Sense Media
- ThinkUKnow (CEOP) Advice for children
- Ask About Games – Advice for parents
- Know how your child’s phone works
- Does it have GPS tagging to photos?
- Does it have parental controls (e.g. Can you block them from uploading images if necessary)?
- Does it access the internet?
- Can it upload images?
- Help your child(ren) to understand that these worlds are not so different – rules that apply offline in the real world apply to the online world too
- Help your child(ren) to understand why they should switch off occasionally (and definitely at least 30 minutes before bed)
Top Tips for parents
- Set boundaries in the online world just as you would in the real world.
- Be involved in your child’s online life.
- Keep up-to-date with your child’s development online.
- Consider the use of parental controls on devices – until they have skills to keep themselves safe.
- Emphasise that not everyone is who they say they are.
- Watch Thinkuknow films to learn more
- Get devices out of the bedroom.